Nicole's gift to you
Anger, frustration, confusion, denial, and desperation are all actually part of
the process of parenting. Parents who tell you that they never have these
feelings are not coming clean. Parenting will test everything you’ve got, and in
solving problems and helping your child through new experiences (wonderful and
painful), you will know a kind of joy that simply can’t be found any other way.
Parenting will be the ultimate life-experience gift you give to yourself. It is
better than graduating high school or finishing a two-year quilting project,
better than bungee jumping, and better than being promoted at work. But, to get
there, you’ve got to turn your energies toward enjoying the experience of being
a parent. You’ve got to empower yourself by recognizing that you’re going to
experience those negative feelings, and ditching the guilt associated with them.
Once this happens, you can give yourself permission to feel good about what you
are doing as a parent. And your kids will feel good about having you as their